I recently moved to Grand Cayman to avoid London in the recession. I'm house-sharing with a friend of a friend, and came home recently to find him in a compromising position on the sofa with my boss. The problem, besides feeling as if my mum is dating my headteacher, is that my boss has told me she has strong feelings for him – but I know he is seeing at least three other women. I don't feel comfortable discussing it with either of them. Will I be judged by my boss once the truth comes out? Do I risk ruining an otherwise peaceful (and cheap) house-share to protect my boss?

Consultant, male, 25

In conventional organisations, knowledge is power. If you know something scurrilous about your boss, you have a weapon against her. In less conventional ones, knowledge is dangerous. If you have dirt on your boss, your boss can take you out. I fear your outfit may fall into the second group.